Our lives begin to be shaped by others as soon as we are born. I believe that before we can understand language we can determine whether mom is full of love or hate. When we begin to understand we learn quickly and hear everything. We begin to know what mom and dad are talking about and sometimes yelling about. We can see and feel their fear and feel their hatred toward others.

It is my opinion that many of us really don't have much of a chance born into this kind of situation. You see, to enable us to become what we are able to, we must be totally free of those things which shape our very thoughts and affect our sense of values. In fact the very thing that often causes us to fail is simply hatred. Sad enough to see many races of man now thinking that they must program their young with hatred, and on and on, it goes, into the far future where they cannot even comprehend the origin of the hatred and know only that they are a person who has hatred and they must continue to hate and teach their young to hate.

These persons are born to fail life and they become only floating objects that sometimes interfere with others lives and not much more. Their chance of truly finding individual freedom is virtually impossible and their chance of aspiring to the heights of man having maturity and balance is not likely. Their motivations are defaulted to reactionary functions that do not permit them the ability to think free of their hatreds and to seek higher things. They must only follow their programming and nothing more.

Now I believe that while it is almost impossible, it is not impossible. Most of us are simply not even aware of the depth of our bitterness and to begin to understand the enormity of our situation we must start at the beginning and work our way though. To eliminate hatreds is simple; to forgive and forget. Instantly haters scream that the people that they hate should NEVER be forgiven. That seals their fate! They simply MUST be forgiven for your OWN good and that has nothing to do with those you hate. Even if you are very old you cannot begin to learn until you comprehend this simple fact. Very probably those who you hate are just like you and floating through life and harming everyone they contact. So to stop the thing that prolongs that kind of valueless life is to begin the first step to change everything and give yourself hope for the first time!

Many are victims in life and by no fault of their own one of these troublesome creatures has damaged your life and the lives of your family and this has caused them to be bitter and full of hatred. In other words they begin again the plague that has plagued us all for millenniums.

To understand this concept and to desire to grasp freedom from bitterness is your only chance. We must attain the position that nothing unbalances our lives no matter what the provocation. After all, the ones that cause you damage are the ones to avoid, not the ones to imitate if we are to improve the value of all our lives.

My only suggestion is that you begin at the beginning and ask your God to forgive your hatreds and to help you. Then to understand what motivated your parents and the others who impacted your environment to provoke you into follow your programming. Understanding them means to understand that they too are victims such as you and by chance they hurt you and you have hurt others. To understand them and to forgive them when you comprehend that they could not help themselves. Recall the times when you hated your parents? Nearly everyone did that at one time or another. Then continue on and on, until you have forgiven everyone that you have hated and then completing that to forgive yourself. That is perhaps the hardest of all. Then to forgive your God for all you hated him for.

To achieve this level will open the doorway for you to walk into life as a child again and this time with hope for the future. For the first time your life will begin to move and develop into a person who has value and a person who has no limitation to what he or she may become. That person has freed himself or herself from the plague of life and for the first time can see things as they are. The choice is yours, continue with your programmed path or to free yourself.

If you find value and freedom in your life, then you should try to help others too. Then perhaps this bitter old world may have hope yet!

The OldSalt